NBR: Life Coaches via Internet Strangers (vent)

I'm a pretty easy going person. When I get mad, it usually takes a lot until I blow. I swear some people are just too vocal for my liking sometimes.

It's not that I get mad because I don't agree with their answer to a question that I have asked. I get mad because some people turn it around somehow and then tell me that I'm not ready for certain things.

First example: I asked a harmless question about if I have to tell a future employer if I'm pregnant at the interview. I mentioned that I'm on unemployment and that Justin's job could definitely support me to be a SAHM. I also mentioned that I'm not sure if I want to go back to work.

From what's listed above, I got flamed by some people saying that if I don't want to work then I need to call Unemployment and tell them to stop my benefits! I swear that were acting like I was on Welfare or something! I've worked hard for over 15 years, I think that I deserve the money that I worked for!

It went from asking a simple question to that! I then had to defend myself about why I am doing things that way I am. First off, these people are complete strangers and they don't know everything about me and my life! Yet they feel the need to tell me how wrong I am!

It took a while, but I finally was able to get over that, but I do remember the negative posters.

Second example: Fast forward to yesterday. I asked another simple question about Closing costs and Down Payments. The same negative poster pretty much tells me that since I don't know the correct terms (I wrote conventional instead of compound) that she highly doubts that I'm ready to buy a house! Are you fucking kidding me?!?!?!? Since you know, it's a pretty big purchase that will affect the rest of my life.

I was so ready to ask her what happens if I ask a (stupid to her) baby question, if that means that I'm not ready to be a mom. I was so close, but I didn't want to stir the pot anymore.

Then I get another one that completely agrees with the above thoughts and says that I'm definitely not ready since we are apparently scraping to get the money together. Ummm, where did you come up with this info?

One word.

Cuntpunch

Yes, I understand that this is the internet and there are just some people who are flat out mean. I even posted this on a Buying a Home thread. I thought that I would for sure get flamed worse over there after what I got on my BMB, but hey guess what?

I got nothing, no flames!!! What I did get was just really helpful answers!

Sorry that this got so long but I needed to get that out!

 

 

Okay, one more thing, we get to find out if we're having a Boy or Girl tomorrow!!!!! So you'll be definitely getting an update!

Time for an Update!

I can't believe that it's been a month since I last posted an update! Where has the time gone? It seems like it's going by slowly, but then it's 30 days later!

Quick baby update. I had another OB appt on May 9th. No ultrasound this time :( but the nurse was able to use the Doppler to hear the heartbeat! It was 156 bpm! Dr. L came in and asked if I had felt any movement yet and I told him that I have felt muscle twitches (kind of like the feeling when your eye twitches) near my bellybutton, but I didn't know if that was baby or my uterus stretching. He said that it was most likely baby!

He scheduled me to come back in 2 weeks for my A/S! So we'll be finding out pretty soon! I can't wait!

The original plan was to do an elective ultrasound at one of those boutiques next week, but Justin said that we could just wait the extra week and save the money. Boo, but I get where he's coming from.

We ordered and got our travel system! We decided on the Chicco Cortina/KeyFit 30 in red and black. This was the most neutral color scheme they offered because hopefully there might be a Baby #2 in
the future!

 

It seems like all of my organs have shifted north and are resting on my lungs/diaphragm. It's been a struggle to breathe sometimes, especially if you throw in allergy induced asthma to the mix.

Morning sickness is 99.9% gone but I got this new little symptom this past week. Gagging and throwing up when I brush my teeth! It's so aggravating! I think that I might have to eat something and then brush my teeth. That's my project this week!

Oh and on the job hunt front, I got selected to go on to the next phase for a position with the City! It's for an Assistant Communications Operator (entry level 911 dispatcher)! I was going back and forth on this but I figured that I didn't know for sure if I want to be a SAHM and I want to keep some options open. And the pay isn't bad! So it would be totally do-able to work PT, pay for daycare, and still bring home a profit!

There were about 100 people at the written test and she said that they'll be sending out the results in 2 weeks! Also, if you pass, you have at least 2 interviews, a background check, a polygraph test, a psychological test, and a medical check! That's a lot of things and I don't have that much time if I am able to go forward! I'm mostly worried about the medical check.

Okay, now the update!

How far along: 17w

Size of Baby: Onion

Total Weight Gain/Loss: I'm up 2lbs but still down 2lbs from my IUI date!

Maternity Clothes: I live in them and I love it!

Gender: Unknown for now. We find out next week!

Belly Button In/Out: In

Stretch Marks: Same ones

Labor Signs: Nope

Movement: A few little muscle twitches near my belly button that Dr says is the baby!

Sleep: Sleeping a bit better. Still trying to sleep on my stomach, so I end up on one of my arms in this weird prop up position and then I wake up with a numb arm, lol

Cravings/Aversions: Back to the Slurpee's and Icee's!

Symptoms: Nipple sensitivity is out the world still!

Feeling: Happy and excited!!!

Best Moment this Week: Being able to hear the baby's heartbeat this week!

What I Miss: Beer sounds so good right now!

What I am Looking Forward To: Finding out if the baby is a girl or boy! Then let the shopping commence!

Milestones: Getting to 17 weeks! In 3 weeks, I'll be half baked! Holy crap, where did the time go?

Baby Milestones: Baby continues to beef up. Now she's about 5.1 inches longs and weighs about 5.9 ounces. Not only is she putting some meat on those bones, she's growing a stronger, thicker umbilical cord too!

Next Appointment: My next appt is Thursday, May 23rd. We get to find out if it's a GIRL or BOY!!!!!! Cannot wait!!!!

13w3d

I've been lazy and I'm sorry for neglecting this! I think it's because I don't have a lot of baby things going on, but I have a lot of other issues that have come up but won't get talked about on here. Sorry!!! Nothing against you guys, but since this is a public blog, I'm not really sure who's out there, lol!

Okay, onto the baby stuff!

I had my NT scan today and it went great! Little baby though was being a pain and not letting the tech get the measurement of the neck fold (hello, whole reason why this was done!). But after a lot of turning this way, and turning that way, and even some "earthquakes" with the wand, baby briefly turned the right way for a second!

At all of my other ultrasounds, baby has just been lying there. The only movement that we saw was at the last appointment and only because baby flinched, twice.

This appointment started out the same way, until the tech did the first "earthquake" (wand is on the belly and she pushes it on and off really fast to get the baby moving). She said it usually works, but our baby wanted nothing to do with it. Baby decided to place its arms by its head, and continued to lounge! When she did it again, this time baby got mad and kicked at the wand! That was the best thing ever! Especially since I can't feel any movement yet, it just amazes me on what's going on inside!

Everything looked good though! The measurement of the neck was at 2.1mm which is good since it needs to be less than 3.5mm. Even my cervix is measuring good at 4.4mm and the Dr. said that as of right now, I have a very low chance of premature labor!

And baby's heart rate is 161bpm! (still high so the OWT is still saying GIRL!!!)

Now for the good stuff, the awesome pics that we got!

Our little froggy face!

Arms are up by the head, just lounging!

Profile pic, now that I'm looking at it, I think baby has daddy's nose!

How far along: 13w3d since they changed my EDD to October 22nd

Size of Baby: Peach!

Total Weight Gain/Loss: I think that I'm up now since I've been eating

Maternity Clothes: I live in them and I love it!

Gender: Unknown for now

Belly Button In/Out: In

Stretch Marks: Same ones

Labor Signs: Nope

Movement: Nothing yet

Sleep: Still having trouble sleeping through the night due to my allergies triggering my asthma :(

Cravings/Aversions: Tostadas from Del Taco are a gift from heaven right now!

Symptoms: Still constipated! I need to remember to take my Colace

Feeling: Happy and excited!!!

Best Moment this Week: Seeing the baby again and all the warm wishes that we got on FB from family and friends after posting the baby's picture!

What I Miss: Being able to poop, lol (still the same)

What I am Looking Forward To: Finding out if the baby is a girl or boy! Then let the shopping commence!

Milestones: Morning sickness is about almost all gone, still get bouts of nausea (knocks on wood) here and there

Baby Milestones: Baby is about 2.9 inches long and weighs about 0.81 ounces. And proportion wise, her head's now about 1/3 the size of her body! Baby already has fingerprints and her vocal cords are forming!

Next Appointment: My next OB appt is May 9th! Hopefully, the time will fly by!

Excuse the funny looking face, Justin doesn't know how to take a picture, lol



12w4d

I had my 12w appt yesterday and it went great! Holy hell, this OB office is on their game! Total time there was 20 minutes!

We walked in at 9:13am for our 9:15am appt. I kind of blame myself since I didn't wake up Justin in time. I woke him up at the time he wanted to leave! Oh well, we still made it!

I check in with the receptionist and she tells me to go pee in a cup. I leave the waiting room to go to the bathroom. I was only able to go a little since I went when I woke up and only had a juice box on the car ride over there. I managed what I could and walked out of the bathroom and towards the little metal urine holder/window thing. I open it and there's 3 other cups, to the point where my cup won't fit! So I'm just standing there, holding my cup of pee, when I hear my name being called in the waiting room.

I yell down the hall to her and say that I'm right here! She walks over to me and I tell her that I can't fit my cup in the little window thing. She opens it and then kind of yells at another employee that this should be empty!

I hand her my cup and she dips a protein strip in it and it comes back negative! Takes me to the scale, and I'm up 2lbs, but still down a total of 4lbs from when I had my IUI. I ask her if Justin can come back here and she said yes. I text him and he walks in just a few seconds later.

The nurse got the Doppler and tried to find the heart beat. She was having trouble but I wasn't worried because I have a pooch there and I had a feeling that she wasn't going to find it. Good news about that, is that we got another ultrasound!

The u/s lady was so nice and found the heartbeat right away. It's still at 170bpm (hmmm....girl???) and our little jellybean looks like a baby now! This child is totally Justin's kid, baby was just laying there sleeping, and the only reason we saw movement was because the baby flinched...twice!

She printed out some pictures for us, but you can hardly see anything on them :(

The OB's office finally got everything handled with my insurance about the NT scan and the referral went in on Thursday! I was totally surprised that the hospital called me this morning and we are set for Friday, April 19th at 1:45pm!

 

 



Now time for the weekly update!

How far along: 12w4d but still measuring a day behind so really 12w3d

Size of Baby: Plum!

Total Weight Gain/Loss: Still down a total of 4lbs

Maternity Clothes: I live in them and I love it!

Gender: Unknown for now

Belly Button In/Out: In

Stretch Marks: Same ones

Labor Signs: Nope

Movement: Nothing yet

Sleep: Been waking up after 6hrs but last night I got a glorious 8hrs!

Cravings/Aversions: Cherry Slurpees and Cherry Icees!

Symptoms: So constipated right now! I think that was the 2lbs that I "gained".

Feeling: IF brain still has me being cautious but I'm getting happier and happier!

Best Moment this Week: Seeing the baby again and coming out on FB!

What I Miss: Being able to poop, lol

What I am Looking Forward To: NT scan next week, and maybe getting a gender guess!!!

Milestones: Reaching 12w and seeing that the baby now looks like a baby!

Baby Milestones: Baby has formed all its parts and just continues to grow. Baby is developing their reflexes and can now curl its fingers and toes! Baby weighs in at 0.49 ounces!

Next Appointment: NT scan is Friday, April 19th and the next OB appt is May 9th!

Out on Facebook!

Had a great appt today so I didn't want to wait any longer!

This is what I posted:

We've been keeping a secret...

We got so many likes and comments from everyone, it was really surprising!

Now the funny thing. I made Justin look at the picture the night before to make sure that I spelled everything right and he said that it looked good. After posting it, I realized that I had put the wrong year that we were married!!!! We got married January 2012, not 2013!

I asked Justin if I should try and fix it, and his response was, "Just let everyone think you got knocked up right away."

That wasn't flying by me though, since I want to post something about IF during IF awareness week. I then post the right picture and just blamed it on my pregnancy brain, which isn't entirely false.

 

I think that all my friends got a kick out of me having to post it a second time!

11w4d

I completely forgot about week 10! Okay, not really, but I am not an artist and I got tired of doing the dry erase board fruit pics. And don't even get me started on the block numbers! I got all the athletic ability and my sister got all the art. So woe is me.

Anyways, I figured that I would change it up a little and do something different! I think I like this way much better because now I have more room to write what's going on. I will be using the color of whatever fruit it is as my font color and giving an update of what the baby is doing in there!

Pathetic excuse for an olive!

 

Much better than my horrible handwriting and drawings!





And now the "official" update!

 

How far along: 11w4d

Size of Baby: Lime

Total Weight Gain/Loss: Don't know, hopefully still down the 6lbs!

Maternity Clothes: Love them! So much! I practically live in my capri's!

Gender: Since we are able to find out the gender through the NT blood work, we decided to wait until the A/S ultrasound when I'm closer to 20weeks!

Belly Button In/Out: In

Stretch Marks: Still the same ones

Labor Signs: Nope

Movement: Nope

Sleep: About 6 hours a night! I miss my 8-10 hours!

Cravings/Aversions: Cherry Slurpee's!

Symptoms: I got a wicked case of morning sickness the other day. I was dry heaving in the Chipotle bathroom and I'm pretty sure I scared an employee!

Feeling: Happy and anxious. For whatever reason, I want to buy everything now!

Best Moment this Week: I love when Justin talks to the baby and puts his hand on my lower pooch!

What I Miss: The extra 4 hours of sleep!

What I am Looking Forward To: Feeling the baby move!

Milestones: Almost out of the 1st trimester!

Baby Milestones: Baby is about 1.6 inches long and weighs in at about 0.25 ounces. Her tooth buds, hair follicles, and nail beds are forming. Her skin is see-through but she's on her way to looking more like a baby. Her fingers and toes aren't webbed anymore, and she's moving fluidly and gracefully in there, even though I can't feel it!

Next Appointment: Thursday, April 11th. Less than a week away!!!!


NT Test

I called my insurance company to make sure that it was covered. They said that all genetic testing is covered!

Since this is my first, and I absolutely have no idea what I'm doing, all these tests that they offer is leaving me dizzy!

At my first OB appt, the Dr. gave me a pamphlet and he told me that he would like me to consider getting the Quad Marker Screening, but then he added that I can get any test I wanted.

After hearing a lot about the NT (nuchal translucency) screening, I decided that this is the test I wanted. The whole screening process is blood work, then an u/s about a week later, and then more blood work in the 2nd Trimester to see what the odds are of Down Syndrome, Trisomy 18, Spina Bifida, and a few others.

I wake up early on Wednesday, and call my OB's office. I talk to the receptionist and she tells me that she'll have the nurse call me back. The Nurse calls me back and then I have to repeat what I wanted and then she tells me that she is going to have someone else call me back to schedule it.

I wait about an hour, and I get a phone call. Once again, I repeat what I wanted. She then asks me if I know what it consists of. :::Duh, I do my research::: I then tell her the procedure for it. She responds, in a kind of snarky way, with, "You don't have any family history so why do you want it done?"

I explain that I am a FTM and I went through IF treatment and I want to make sure everything is fine.

She continues with, "I have to write something on the referral for the reason why you need it. I guess I can figure out something to write on it. You can pick up your lab slip."

What a bish!

When I picked up the lab slip, I noticed next to her name it says MA!!!! She's a freaking MEDICAL ASSISTANT!!!!! Not even a nurse, and she's giving me hell and making me feel guilty!

I definitely will be talking to my OB about this.

I got the 1st round of blood work done today. She did tell me that I will be hearing from the hospital next week to schedule the appt. Now I just have to wait. (And she better had put my referral in, or shit is really going to hit the fan!)